Men problems

My husband makes excuse not to come to NYC. He not helping in this relationship. How long will this relationship last? I don't know anymore. He's not coming for 2 months. So since he not coming. I did call the other guy to ask if he wanted to hang out. He never answer. My Saturday night I end up doing nothing. My best friend ask me is your husband coming. I told her no she said how much longer will I take it. I told her I don't know. She said he needs to realize this marriage is going kaput. I really don't know what to do anymore. Why does men always makes excuse? Why is this happening to me!!!